Doing it alone / Single in the country

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    Gem
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    Hello. I am in my early thirties and single. I have been in London since i was 18 and my whole life is here, but also feel that it is time to move on and desperate to go back South. I am considering moving to rural Dorset, but am scared that i may regret it. Has anyone here done it? Will i make friends, or dare i dream a partner? Or am i committing myself to a life of a lonely spinster?

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    Christina
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    Hi Gem,

    Yes, I did it too! I’m originally from Canada and have lived in Budapest and Amsterdam, so coming to Dorset was a big culture shock. I was based in Bournemouth, so not exactly the middle of no-where but it was very lonely (and I had a husband too). However, I have moved to other places on my own and my advice to you is to get involved in village life as fast as you can.
    Do you have a hobby or do a craft? There are a lot of craft groups involved in the countryside (some of the best) so WI, church, pub, post office will be your best bets to start finding already-formed circles. Don’t be an Agatha Raisin and show off your townie credentials (or worse, actually kill someone) – that doesn’t go down well in the countryside. Be yourself, be natural, be inquisitive and you will never be lonely.
    As for that dishy-farmer-of-our-fantasises, who knows? But if I were you, I’d better start liking milk, cheese, meat and beer….

    Seriously, let me know how you get on and what you decide to do. You’re not the only one!

    Strength & Courage!
    Christina

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    oliver
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    Hi Gem you need not to worry it is normal to be worried. I myself moved from London down to the area as many of our clients did. When moving to the country you need to be in that stage of your life that you’re ready to make the move because obviously it’s not the bright lights of London. However remember London is always there if you get bored, you will naturally change as I can’t handle London for more than a weekend now and when I drive back and see the rolling green hills I feel a sense of relief. There is always a lot going on in the country but you must put yourself out there In order to get the best out of it. Everyone is very friendly and you never need to look over your back. I recommend you choose your area wisely and I’m more than happy to help you with that if required. I’m 33 years old and wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s always the fear in your head which creates the issue but once it’s set in your head you’re moving and you get going all will be good. Any issues don’t hesitate to contact the home company on 01747 822250 for friendly advise, my name is Oliver… Wish you all the best either way and hope it helps. Kind regards

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    Jo
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    Hi Gem, is it worth considering an ‘intermediate’ move out of London – slightly South – purchase or rental – where you can spend some time deciding what you liked/missed about London without cutting the ‘umbilical chord’ completely! Moving to Dorset single and in your early 30’s does seem like a major step (albeit strangely idyllic too!) but at least this way you wouldn’t make any costly mistakes.
    Anyway, you might like to consider Sevenoaks – directly south from London in the beautiful county of Kent – the ‘Garden of England’. It has a bustling market town centre and is surrounded by many pretty villages within a 5 mile radius. It is very well connected – You can be back in London in 25 mins on the train, or at Gatwick or Ebbsfleet in half an hour.

    Happy to chat further – jo@fanfarepropertysearch.co.uk

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    David
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    Hi Gem,
    to save repeating myself, take a look at my reply to The Big Question – all about Bridport. Everything happens here and there is plenty of young life, so no spinsterhood!

    Regards,

    David

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    Anonymous

    Hello gem, I’m in my early 30’s and also plan to leave London soon (leaving all my friends in London also). I’m considering Dorset. I’m quite scared to do it alone but change needs to happen. I wanted to know how you are getting on with Dorset and if you are enjoying yourself after your move? Thank you

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